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3 steps to avoid toxic relationships

Published on November 17th, 2012

I would like toxic relationships…said no one ever.  Nobody says that because we want healthy relationships.  We want to have “good” friends.  But here’s the problem.  While we don’t say that…

  • How often do we find ourselves stressed because of a relationship gone weird?
  • How often do we find ourselves depressed because a relationship doesn’t seem to be working?
  • How often do we find ourselves angry because we’ve been hurt…by a friend?

We don’t say we want toxic/weird/stressed out/dysfunctional relationships, but it happens.  And here’s the thing…IT HAPPENS A LOT!  A  little definition here of “friendship.”  We’re not talking about marriage.  We’re not talking about family members.  This is same sex relationships where common interests bring us together.  Beyond our husband or wife…beyond family members…we need other friends to help us thrive in life.  It’s necessary, but often we don’t take the time to invest in the health of these relationships outside of family.  Here are three steps to avoiding toxic relationships based on Proverbs 27.

Step #1:  Put on humility.    

1 Don’t brag about tomorrow, since you don’t know what the day will bring.  2 Let someone else praise you, not your own mouth— a stranger, not your own lips.

Step #2:  Give courageous rebukes.

An open rebuke (correction) is better than hidden love!  6 Wounds from a sincere friend are better than many kisses from an enemy.

Step #3:  Accept healthy counsel.

The heartfelt counsel of a friend is as sweet as perfume and incense.

Proverbs 27 – check it out and let the words you discover heal, correct, and encourage!


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