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Published on January 28th, 2011

Have you ever found yourself in a relationship that could be described as a bit “toxic”?  Have you ever stepped back and discovered that you might actually be “toxic” at times…the attitudes, words, anger, looks.  I think we’ve all been there.  We get it.  We live in a sea of relationships and a  good majority of life is navigating through those friendships successfully.  It’s not easy.   Sociologists tell us that even the most introverted individual will influence ten thousand other people during his or her lifetime.  TEN-THOUSAND.  That’s kind of a lot.  As you navigate your way through the different relationships you have,  attach yourself to solid values. What vision do you want to pursue?  What do you want to be remembered for?  What qualities in other people do you most admire?  What are four to six words that most describe the person you wish to be?  What statement will be written about you?  Secondly, get perspective.  Make sure you’re not the one being toxic.  Thirdly, set boundaries. A great way to do that is to simply remind yourself that this is not just about dumping toxic people into some wasteland of nothingness.  This isn’t about punting people to the other end of the field (even those that hurt us).  This is about setting boundaries and confronting conflict with grace and truth.  Relationships are worth it.  Fight for them so you don’t fight against them!

 

6 Responses

  1. I would love a Pt. 2 that discusses a side-problem. Because I keep certain toxic relationships in my life out of fear that I am their only evangelical hope. That my connection to them is specifically for their transformation. Despite the fact that I gain nothing but misery from the relationship.

    I don’t know what to do about that.

    • That’s a great thought Eric O. It seems that we’re “supposed” to do that for sake of what “could be” for their future. I wasn’t planning a part two. I’ll get to work on that. By the way…great to hear from you! What’s the big news?

  2. I would love a Pt. 2 that discusses a side-problem. Because I keep certain toxic relationships in my life out of fear that I am their only evangelical hope. That my connection to them is specifically for their transformation. Despite the fact that I gain nothing but misery from the relationship.

    I don’t know what to do about that.

    • That’s a great thought Eric O. It seems that we’re “supposed” to do that for sake of what “could be” for their future. I wasn’t planning a part two. I’ll get to work on that. By the way…great to hear from you! What’s the big news?

  3. We can decrease toxins in our lives and to better the world by speaking up.

  4. We can decrease toxins in our lives and to better the world by speaking up.

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